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Unless you’ve been through it, you can’t understand it. It’s that simple.

Grief is not something you understand from a distance.

Learn from a fellow traveler’s down-to-earth approach to healing. STUNNED by Grief is realistic and revealing. You’ll discover what to expect. And you’ll find tools and tips to remap your life. 



When you’re devastated by loss, what good is a journal?



“This journal will help you cut through the pain that isolates and freezes you—and get to the heart of what really matters.

Writing about your loss is one of the most important things you can do. It’s key to tapping into your grief, working through it, and releasing what’s buried inside.




Excited about returning for my fourth visit to Military Mom Talk Radio –
(and another visit is scheduled for November 17)

Join hosts Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd as they interview Judy Brizendine & another guest – for a great show!

Click on link to access the recording:  Sept. 29 Military Mom Talk Radio – Judy Brizendine & Judy Davis


Judy has been invited to participate in an online discussion and interview series with the authors (Linda Schreyer and Jo-Ann Lautman)
of a new book called Tears and Tequila
- a fiction book about grief.  A description of the series follows:

“Tears and Tequila Talks is a super-sized book club–yes, we’ll be talking about the themes of this new novel–working through difficult times, the aftermath of grief, new friendships and life renewal–but we’ll also be interviewing and sharing special features from an amazing group of experts, bloggers and well-known authors over the course of several weeks.”

The discussion with Judy was published on August 12.  Hope you’ll subscribe and join in for all the conversations!  Click here for the link to sign up.

Here’s a link to the conversation with me:  Tears and Tequila Talks … with Judy Brizendine

From Judy:  “I read Tears and Tequila from cover to cover, and the book is authentic, touching, realistic, and engaging.  I cared about the characters, I related to their stories, I smiled, and I cried.  I had never read (or even entertained the thought of) a fiction book about grief,
yet Schreyer and Lautman brilliantly crafted a book that expresses ‘a story of love, loss, friendship, courage and, most of all, renewal .’
I loved it!

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 Photo from 2013 Readers’ Favorite International Awards Ceremony!
Stunned By Grief captured the Gold Medal in the Nonfiction – Grief category. We’re honored and humbled by the award. 

 Readers' Favorite Awards, Gold Medal for Nonfiction-Grief, Judy Brizendine receiving gold medal, Debra Gaynor


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If you’re facing grief, this blog is all about you—and focusing on your questions, concerns, struggles, triumphs, and countless issues your journey brings.

We hope you’ll feel at home here!

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Pause and Think Twice Before You Speak to Someone Who Is Grieving

admin : August 15, 2014 6:15 pm : Coping with Grief, Decisions and choices, How to help grievers, Needs of grievers, Stunned by Grief, What to say to grievers

Red Stop Sign_Pause Before Speak to GrieversBy Judy Brizendine

After reading and hearing countless comments about the death of Robin Williams, once again it’s clear that a great lack of understanding surrounds grief, loss, and related issues. Even though the intent of most people is to provide comfort and support, they can inadvertently say something that’s hurtful or damaging. It’s a good idea to briefly pause and think twice before you speak to someone who is grieving or make judgment calls about someone who has died.

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Have You Been Turned Away from a Grief-Support Group?

admin : May 31, 2014 12:37 am : Coping with Grief, Needs of grievers, Stunned by Grief

white adironack chair on beach_blue sky_grief support_grief and lossBy Judy Brizendine

Someone shared her experience with me this week, and it broke my heart, shocked, and angered me all at the same time.  This person ‘diligently searched’ (her words) for help with grief, and was turned away from grief-support groups by several organizations.  Her situation didn’t fit their specific criteria. They didn’t offer her other alternatives or assistance.  She needed help, but finally gave up trying to find a group.  Private counseling was not an alternative for her.

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3 Things in Life Are Certain — How Do You Respond to #3?

admin : April 16, 2014 6:18 pm : Attitude, Changes, Coping with Grief, Decisions and choices, New directions, Stunned by Grief

orange and black Road Work Ahead sign_change_griefBy Judy Brizendine

We’re all familiar with the saying about two things no one can escape: death and taxes! But what about the third certainty in life? Any ideas? How about change? Can any of us escape change? I don’t think so, as much as we sometimes wish we could! more »

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STUNNED by Grief is available in print or electronic edition at your local independent bookshop, barnesandnoble.com, amazon.com, indiebound.org, iTunes, Kobo, ipgbook.com/bennettknepp-publishing-publisher-BKN.php, and elsewhere.