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Unless you’ve been through it, you can’t understand it. It’s that simple.

Grief is not something you understand from a distance.

Learn from a fellow traveler’s down-to-earth approach to healing. STUNNED by Grief is realistic and revealing. You’ll discover what to expect. And you’ll find tools and tips to remap your life. 



When you’re devastated by loss, what good is a journal?

“This journal will help you cut through the pain that isolates and freezes you—and get to the heart of what really matters.

Writing about your loss is one of the most important things you can do. It’s key to tapping into your grief, working through it, and releasing what’s buried inside.


Judy has been invited to participate in an online discussion and interview series with the authors (Linda Schreyer and Jo-Ann Lautman)
of a new book called Tears and Tequila
- a fiction book about grief.  A description of the series follows:

“Tears and Tequila Talks is a super-sized book club–yes, we’ll be talking about the themes of this new novel–working through difficult times, the aftermath of grief, new friendships and life renewal–but we’ll also be interviewing and sharing special features from an amazing group of experts, bloggers and well-known authors over the course of several weeks.”

The discussion with Judy is now scheduled to go live on August 4.  Hope you’ll subscribe and join in!  Click here for the link to sign up.

I read Tears and Tequila from cover to cover, and the book is authentic, touching, realistic, and engaging.  I cared about the characters, I related to their stories, I smiled, and I cried.  I had never read (or even entertained the thought of) a fiction book about grief,
yet Schreyer and Lautman brilliantly crafted a book that expresses “a story of love, loss, friendship, courage and, most of all, renewal .”
I loved it!

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On Wed., May 28, 7PM, Judy gave a presentation at the Public Library in Tustin, CA (click on link below for details)
2014 5-28 Tustin Library Presentation Flyer

Thanks so much to each person who invested their time to find out more about grief.  I enjoyed meeting and talking with each of you and hope you’ll find valuable tools and helpful information here on our website.  Feel free to contact me.  If you need something you don’t find here, let me know.  I’ll do my best to help!

On Mon., Mar. 31, 5:00PM (PDT) Judy was Karyn Beach’s guest on
Get It Together Girl Radio – (click here to access the program)

On Mon., Mar. 17, 2:00PM (PDT) Judy returned as a guest on Military Mom Talk Radio
with Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd – (click here to access the program)

On Fri., Jan. 31, 1:30PM (CST), Judy returned as a guest on Life’s Issues with Lloyd Rosen -
discussing critical information about grief – (click here to access the recording)

On Thurs., Jan. 9  - Todd Weaver of Tremendous Life Radio interviewed Judy
on the topic “The Truth about Grief and Why It Matters” – (click here for the recording)

Photo from 2013 Readers’ Favorite International Awards Ceremony!
Stunned By Grief captured the Gold Medal in the Nonfiction – Grief category. We’re honored and humbled by the award. 


Readers' Favorite Awards, Gold Medal for Nonfiction-Grief, Judy Brizendine receiving gold medal, Debra Gaynor


O.C. Register – Saddleback Valley News (Lake Forest | Laguna Hills edition – Reporter Sarah de Crescenzo wrote an article about Judy and Stunned By Grief that was published on November 1.  The article,  “Writer’s mission is getting others through grief” is also archived on ocregister.com (where the full article is available to Register subscribers).

 Link: O.C. Register – Writer’s mission is getting others through grief

Judy spoke at the Widows Supporting Widows group at Saddleback ChurchThe group meets the first Saturday morning of the month – and it’s a wonderful, warm and safe place for widows to connect with others who truly understand what they’re going through.

Judy speaking at Saddleback Church

O.C. Register – Saddleback Valley News (Lake Forest | Laguna Hills & Mission Viejo editions) - on the Voices page – Judy wrote a guest column about her grief journey that was published on September 6.  The article is archived on ocregister.com (where the full article is available to Register subscribers). Hope you’ll take a look!

Link:  O.C. Register – Coping with grief is a choice




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If you’re facing grief, this blog is all about you—and focusing on your questions, concerns, struggles, triumphs, and countless issues your journey brings.

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Have You Been Turned Away from a Grief-Support Group?

admin : May 31, 2014 12:37 am : Coping with Grief, Needs of grievers, Stunned by Grief

white adironack chair on beach_blue sky_grief support_grief and lossBy Judy Brizendine

Someone shared her experience with me this week, and it broke my heart, shocked, and angered me all at the same time.  This person ‘diligently searched’ (her words) for help with grief, and was turned away from grief-support groups by several organizations.  Her situation didn’t fit their specific criteria. They didn’t offer her other alternatives or assistance.  She needed help, but finally gave up trying to find a group.  Private counseling was not an alternative for her.

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3 Things in Life Are Certain — How Do You Respond to #3?

admin : April 16, 2014 6:18 pm : Attitude, Changes, Coping with Grief, Decisions and choices, New directions, Stunned by Grief

orange and black Road Work Ahead sign_change_griefBy Judy Brizendine

We’re all familiar with the saying about two things no one can escape: death and taxes! But what about the third certainty in life? Any ideas? How about change? Can any of us escape change? I don’t think so, as much as we sometimes wish we could! more »

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Outstanding List of Online Resources for Coping with Grief

admin : March 14, 2014 7:55 pm : Attitude, Changes, Coping with Grief, Decisions and choices, Effects of Grief, Hope, Needs of grievers, New directions, Relationships, Response to tragedy, Stunned by Grief

metal container filled with bright yellow sunflowers_grief_copingI’m always watching for outstanding resources to recommend, and the article discussed in this post is filled with 115 helpful websites on grief and bereavement. I believe this list represents a collection of some of the very best online resources available for coping with grief and bereavement.

In this article on the MastersInCounseling.org website, you will find a wide range of resources directed toward grief brought about by a variety of life events, including but not limited to death. You’ll find information to help you understand, guidance to help you cope, and a supportive community so you know you are not alone.  Within the grief community I have found some of the most caring, compassionate, and giving people I’ve ever met — folks who have faced the effects of grief in their own lives and are passionate about sharing their experience and knowledge to support others who now face grief.

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STUNNED by Grief is available in print or electronic edition at your local independent bookshop, barnesandnoble.com, amazon.com, indiebound.org, iTunes, Kobo, ipgbook.com/bennettknepp-publishing-publisher-BKN.php, and elsewhere.