Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

The ‘O’ Word that Hits Grievers—and What to Do about It

Monday, October 3rd, 2016

lines of pencils, check boxes beside each, heart in middle

This one should be pretty easy to figure out.  The ‘O’ word that hits grievers is a common reaction to grief.  (more…)

Hard Lessons Learned about Grief: How Can You Turn Things Around after a Tragedy?

Thursday, June 30th, 2016

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You just received some stunning news, and your world has been turned inside out and upside down.  What will you do, and how can you turn things around after a tragedy or a deep heartache and keep going?  Your first thought is, “I don’t know how I’m ever going to get through this.” Even though your world has stopped, everyone else’s world keeps going on as usual.  How will you get through this tragedy?  What will your life look like afterward?

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Three-Legged Stool Is Crucial, Particularly during Tough Times (like Grief)

Tuesday, November 24th, 2015

rustic and brightly colored three legged stoolsBy Judy Brizendine

Tough times require extraordinary measures. Sometimes you’re not at your strongest – because something has knocked the wind out of you. An event, circumstance, or condition leaves you reeling, and you try desperately to regain your balance and steady yourself again. During tough times (such as grief), a particular three-legged stool is crucial. The building blocks that form the foundation of this stool are vital to your ability to cope with tough times. (more…)

How Do You Stand Back Up When Grief Knocks You Down?

Friday, June 5th, 2015

Golden sunrise peeking through clouds over ocean_hope_griefBy Judy Brizendine

Grief is a formidable force—and when it hits you directly, it holds the power to take you to your knees. What can you do? How do you stand back up when grief knocks you down?

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Do You Feel as Though Grief Is the End of Your Story?

Monday, May 11th, 2015

Colorful sailboats on the water_griefBy Judy Brizendine

My life changed radically in 1998. It’s hard to believe that seventeen years have passed since then. However, flashes from those days will stay with me as long as I live. Do you feel as though grief is the end of your story? For a time, I thought grief marked the end of mine.

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Caution! Control Toxic Thinking and Create Positive Changes

Friday, April 24th, 2015

Yellow caution light_control toxic thinking_griefBy Judy Brizendine

Caution! Does toxic thinking seem to tag along with you? If so, what difference does it make?

Even if you are besieged by toxic thinking, it’s only ‘thoughts’ – right? What harm can there be in examining something in your mind, even if you are off track? (more…)

Things I Wish I’d Known about Grief

Monday, March 23rd, 2015

By Judy BrizendineTunnel opening looking onto blue sky and beach

Apart from the sheer and utter pain of grief, I believe the rest of it is not what we expect. To be completely honest, until grief came crashing down on me, I’m not sure I had ever even given a thought to it – certainly not a serious thought. And I imagine most people fall into the same category as me. That was nearly seventeen years ago. Looking back, there were so many things I wish I’d known about grief. Here are a few for you to consider … (more…)

3 Things in Life Are Certain — How Do You Respond to #3?

Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

orange and black Road Work Ahead sign_change_griefBy Judy Brizendine

We’re all familiar with the saying about two things no one can escape: death and taxes! But what about the third certainty in life? Any ideas? (more…)

Outstanding List of Online Resources for Coping with Grief

Friday, March 14th, 2014

metal container filled with bright yellow sunflowers_grief_copingI’m always watching for outstanding resources to recommend, and the article discussed in this post is filled with 115 helpful websites on grief and bereavement. I believe this list represents a collection of some of the very best online resources available for coping with grief and bereavement.

In this article on the MastersInCounseling.org website, you will find a wide range of resources directed toward grief brought about by a variety of life events, including but not limited to death. You’ll find information to help you understand, guidance to help you cope, and a supportive community so you know you are not alone.

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Inspirational Authors Persevered to Share Heartfelt Messages

Wednesday, December 11th, 2013

By Judy Brizendine

ReadersFavoriteBooth_Miami Book Fair_Authors_Life Changing MessagesI recently returned from an author’s event in Miami and one of the highlights of the event was the opportunity to meet and get acquainted with incredible people! I met a number of amazing award-winning authors who persevered to share heartfelt messages with people everywhere. They persisted, in spite of obstacles and challenges — physical, emotional, and sometimes monetary — because they were passionate about sharing stories and messages to help other people.

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At the End of the Day What Are You Focusing On — and Will You Survive or Thrive?

Tuesday, November 12th, 2013

strong tree silhouette against bright blue sky and fluffy white clouds, survive or thrive

Grief is tough – there’s no doubt about it. But don’t ever think you are powerless over your journey or your life. At the end of the day, what are you focusing on? Ask yourself the question. It’s important. Your answer may well determine not only if you will still be standing, but whether you’ll survive or thrive.

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Which Best Describes Your Approach to Grief — a Cheetah, a Turtle, or an Ant?

Wednesday, October 16th, 2013

closeup of cheetah, your approach to grief, do you run

Stop for a minute and think about your approach to grief. Do you face it like a cheetah, a turtle, or an ant?

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What Hope Is — and How You Hang On to It

Friday, August 9th, 2013
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Photo: joyfulbutterfly.com

 

I recently discovered a quote in a treasured book by Sarah Young, and I love how she describes hope. Sarah says, “Hope is a golden cord connecting you to heaven. This cord helps you hold your head up high, even when multiple trials are buffeting you.”

I have my own picture of hope. I like to think of hope as part our DNA. I see it as a key element of our internal make-up, just like the cells of our bodies, yet it’s deeper than that. I envision hope as a real but invisible link, devised and engineered by God, that ties us to Him—an unmistakable connection that nudges us to go on when we’re down; that whispers to us when we stray; that tugs (and tugs) at our hearts when we need to listen; that throws up road signs for us to see when we’re lost; and that points out everyday miracles to us when we need encouragement.

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Grief’s Effects Run Deep and Wide

Monday, June 24th, 2013

grief's effects_deep and wide Grand Canyon_rock formationsGrief remains a mystery to many until they’re forced to find out about it firsthand. What they will discover is that grief’s effects run deep and wide.

People have searched to learn about the effects of grief, so I wanted to shed a little light on the subject.

When grief noticeably touches your life and everything inside and around you, and you finally grow tired of things the way they are, then you’ll likely decide to figure out what’s going on and take action. Do you understand what is happening? And do you know what you have to do to get beyond this point?

Grief holds the power to literally stop you in your tracks. It spills over into every part of your life, and you cannot keep it self-contained or compartmentalized, regardless of how hard you try. Grief’s effects impact:

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Sometimes You Simply Have to Encourage Yourself During Grief

Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

Grief_Encourage Yourself_Orange sunset over oceanEveryone needs encouragement, especially when grieving. And sometimes, you simply have to encourage yourself during grief.

The longer I live, the more I understand that attitude is the single most important driving force in any of our lives. Whether the question relates to your professional life, your personal life, your relationships, your spiritual journey, or anything else you can think of—your attitude influences (and drives) your success or failure, your happiness or dissatisfaction, and the ease or struggle of your journey.

Let’s be honest. Grief is hard. It may be one of the most difficult things you’ve faced in life. And struggle can surely get you down, if you allow it.

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