Archive for the ‘How to help grievers’ Category

The ‘O’ Word that Hits Grievers—and What to Do about It

Monday, October 3rd, 2016

lines of pencils, check boxes beside each, heart in middle

This one should be pretty easy to figure out.  The ‘O’ word that hits grievers is a common reaction to grief.  (more…)

Is There a Shortcut through Grief?

Monday, July 18th, 2016

Sun inside heart against sunset_shortcut through grief

How many of us have wondered, “Is there a shortcut through grief?” – and desperately wished that somehow, some way, we’d discover that quicker way.  (more…)

Grief Is Hard

Thursday, October 22nd, 2015

Gray stone heart surrounded by green mossBy Judy Brizendine

For once, let’s forget about dancing around the bush – or being politically correct. Let’s agree not to sweep the truth under the rug and stay silent. If you’ve faced a major loss, you know the truth. Grief is hard.

Even grief professionals are sometimes surprised and overwhelmed when they face a profound personal loss. (more…)

Silence from Friends Is Painful

Monday, April 13th, 2015

Bird walking alone on beach_grief_invisibleBy Judy Brizendine

I recently received a note from a reader asking me a question and suggesting a topic to write about. And then she went on to tell me her story. She has been facing a deep loss in her life over the past year or more. Silence from friends is painful. Being ignored (and considered invisible) is devastating. (more…)

Are Christians Supposed to Grieve?

Wednesday, March 11th, 2015

Stone cross, weathered wood, framed by an archBy Judy Brizendine

People have asked me this question enough times that I thought it deserved some attention: “Are Christians supposed to grieve?” Confusion even leads some Christians to feel guilty when they do grieve and to question the strength of their faith.

Let’s set the record straight up front. (more…)

Simplify — Holiday Tips to Help Grievers

Friday, December 12th, 2014

thXQSE07I7Holidays conjure up a myriad of memories and emotions for each of us, but when you’re going through a painful time of grief and loss, the holidays can be especially challenging.  In a guest blog I wrote for Fairhaven Memorial, I share a few simple, practical tips to help you find peace and experience moments of joy in the midst of your sadness.

The entire article can be found through the link below.  I hope you’ll take a few moments to read and consider these suggestions to ease your stress and help you to experience the best from the holidays this year.  Feel free to share the post with anyone who may benefit.

Here’s the link to the article:  Simplify

© 2014 Judy Brizendine

Photo Credit:  Photo courtesy of office.microsoft.com

 

Our 15-Year-Old Cat Taught Me Something about Grief

Saturday, October 25th, 2014

cats sleeping together_grief_lessonsBy Judy Brizendine

Max and Molly were inseparable. They spent their entire lives together – until Molly became sick with an incurable form of cancer. Soon afterward we had to put her to sleep. Then Max was alone, without his sister, for the first time.  And surprisingly, Max our cat taught me something about grief.

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Pause and Think Twice Before You Speak to Someone Who Is Grieving

Friday, August 15th, 2014

Red Stop Sign_Pause Before Speak to GrieversBy Judy Brizendine

After reading and hearing countless comments about the death of Robin Williams, once again it’s clear that a great lack of understanding surrounds grief, loss, and related issues. Even though the intent of most people is to provide comfort and support, they can inadvertently say something that’s hurtful or damaging.

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