Archive for the ‘Needs of grievers’ Category

Priceless Gift from the Grief ‘Club’ – Understanding Grief

Wednesday, August 24th, 2011

Photo of Thorns and FlowersThe Grief ‘Club’ is a group you never wanted to join. But the irony of it all is that fellow members have the ability to connect with you and understand what you’re going through in ways that strangers to the club (even though they may be people closest to you) cannot.

An unspoken bond exists between people who have suffered a deep loss. They not only know about grief, they know grief—so they can relate to your feelings, fears, and questions. Fellow members have an awareness that is missing in those who do not belong to the club. Others, regardless of their desire, simply do not have the same ability to understand—because grief cannot be known any way except firsthand.

I’m still amazed (even though I know it’s true) that a perfect stranger may be able to relate to me better than someone I’ve known and loved for years.

Have you received this gift?

© 2011 Judy Brizendine

Grievers Don’t Need to Be ‘Fixed,’ but They Need to Be Heard

Wednesday, August 3rd, 2011

Photo of peaceful fountainGrievers need someone to listen, and once is not enough. Talking about your loved one or your loss is difficult for some, but talking heals! Yes, talking hurts–but it does heal. Talking about your pain is a way of moving your feelings from the inside to the outside, so you can begin to face your feelings, release them, and start to heal.

One of the kindest, most compassionate things anyone can do is to allow (or better yet, encourage!) a grieving person to talk about his or her loss.

What have you experienced? Have you tried to talk? Has anyone listened?

© 2011 Judy Brizendine