You’re probably thinking, “I don’t even know what a ‘grief’ umbrella is”—and you’re asking me, “What color is your ‘grief’ umbrella?” Let’s work through this idea together …
Grief is a mystery and a shock when you first meet up with it. Nothing you’ve ever seen, read, or thought about grief prepares you for its reality. Just like death—when death steals someone you love away—a staggering realization hits your senses that your life has changed and it will never be the same again. That’s the way grief is, too. And when grief shows up, trust me, you’ll need ‘grief’ umbrellas.
You may not be able to actually prepare yourself for the way grief touches and influences your life, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing helpful you can do. Think of the ‘umbrellas’ you need—for support, protection, reassurance, well-being. Different people need different umbrellas, and there’s no one-size-fits-all for everyone.
Grief tests everything within and around you. It’s like an earthquake, a volcano, a tornado, and a tidal wave all wrapped up into one! No wonder grief is too hard to face alone. You may want and need a ‘God’ umbrella or a friend who shares your spiritual beliefs to support you. You may need an ‘umbrella’ of others who are facing grief in their lives, too, so you feel understood. You may need an umbrella of good, solid resources to help you figure things out for yourself. You may need a ‘listening’ umbrella—someone who cares enough to just be there and listen, reassure, and love you! Some umbrellas are temporary, and others are built to be around for a long time. You probably need both. And maybe you need something entirely different—a unique umbrella to fit a special need you have …
Choose your umbrellas well! Everyone needs protection, shelter, support, and strength. Choose more than one. In fact, make yours a tailor-made collection of umbrellas to encourage and empower you on your healing journey.
Rely on your personal ‘grief’ umbrellas to help you gradually unwrap your own story of hope.
© 2013 Judy Brizendine