What Color Is Your ‘Grief’ Umbrella?

Line of brightly colored umbrellas related to grief

You’re probably thinking, “I don’t even know what a ‘grief’ umbrella is”—and you’re asking me, “What color is your ‘grief’ umbrella?” Let’s work through this idea together …

Grief is a mystery and a shock when you first meet up with it. Nothing you’ve ever seen, read, or thought about grief prepares you for its reality. Just like death—when death steals someone you love away—a staggering realization hits your senses that your life has changed and it will never be the same again. That’s the way grief is, too. And when grief shows up, trust me, you’ll need ‘grief’ umbrellas.

You may not be able to actually prepare yourself for the way grief touches and influences your life, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing helpful you can do. Think of the ‘umbrellas’ you need—for support, protection, reassurance, well-being. Different people need different umbrellas, and there’s no one-size-fits-all for everyone.

Grief tests everything within and around you. It’s like an earthquake, a volcano, a tornado, and a tidal wave all wrapped up into one! No wonder grief is too hard to face alone. You may want and need a ‘God’ umbrella or a friend who shares your spiritual beliefs to support you. You may need an ‘umbrella’ of others who are facing grief in their lives, too, so you feel understood. You may need an umbrella of good, solid resources to help you figure things out for yourself. You may need a ‘listening’ umbrella—someone who cares enough to just be there and listen, reassure, and love you! Some umbrellas are temporary, and others are built to be around for a long time. You probably need both. And maybe you need something entirely different—a unique umbrella to fit a special need you have …

Choose your umbrellas well! Everyone needs protection, shelter, support, and strength. Choose more than one. In fact, make yours a tailor-made collection of umbrellas to encourage and empower you on your healing journey.

Rely on your personal ‘grief’ umbrellas to help you gradually unwrap your own story of hope.

© 2013 Judy Brizendine

 

About Judy

"Out of your deepest pain comes your greatest gift." Judy writes about grief and loss in a realistic, practical way - to help, inspire, encourage, and educate any who face loss in their lives. A fellow-traveler's approach to grief ...

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4 Responses to “What Color Is Your ‘Grief’ Umbrella?”

  1. Felecia Wong says:

    Wow! Truly an eye opener, Judy!
    I am blessed with variety kinds of umbrellas, some temporary but more are permanent. But surely they have helped me go through the hardest parts of my life.
    Btw, one of my umbrellas is you, your book, and your journey.

    Thank you!

    • admin says:

      Thank you so much, Felecia, for your kind and personal words! I’m very, very glad that I’ve been able to help you in some way on your journey. I hope you know what a wonderful encouragement you’ve been to me by the notes you’ve written. Knowing that my writing is helping others means more than you know. God bless you!

      Many thanks,
      Judy

  2. Thank you, Judy, for a great post. My favorite line, –someone who cares enough to just be there and listen, reassure, and love you! That’s what we all need.

    Many blessings,
    Wanda S.

    http://wandasmaxey.com

    • admin says:

      I’m so glad you stopped by and took a look, Wanda! Many thanks for your kind words. Yes, isn’t it true–we all need someone to just be there, listen, reassure, and love us!
      Sending blessings your way … and I hope you’ll stop by again.

      Warmly,
      Judy