Will you walk through the door?
Healing from grief requires a ‘yes’ from you. The door that leads to healing probably seems intimidating. It’s not warm or inviting, and you may be scared. After all, who wants to face pain?
You’re not sure what you’ll find on the other side of the door. Like this photo of a ‘double’ door, once you open the first one, you may run into others you have to walk through, too — layers of uncomfortable feelings, fears, and unexpected issues connected to your grief. But healing begins with a choice: the decision to face the pain and work through it.
When a loss first occurs, your immediate goal is survival — making it through the day, the hour, or even the minute.
However, at some point, you will have to make a deliberate choice about how you’ll face your loss. And you decide how you’ll let tragedies and sorrows affect the rest of your life.
Grieving (remapping) is the way you cope with loss. Your life is worth the effort remapping takes.
Choose life rather than giving in to hopelessness. Take action. Decide to take the steps that lead to healing from grief.
Don’t allow your loss to be the greatest tragedy of all. Someone still needs you. And you can do this! Your future can be positive and meaningful again. Take the first step …
© 2011 Judy Brizendine
Tags: choosing life, emotions, facing pain, healing from grief, remapping process
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Thank you for visiting our website! You’re right — written resources are valuable in helping us learn how to cope with the grief that follows loss. After my husband died, I read books to understand why I felt the way I did, to find out what to expect, and to figure out why everything had changed. I was completely unprepared. Years later, I wrote STUNNED by Grief and the STUNNED by Grief Journal so that other people wouldn’t have to struggle the way I did just to figure things out. Thanks for the resources you provide on your website and for linking to our blog. If you’re interested in listing the books there too, I’d be honored. Here’s a link with descriptions of each: http://www.stunnedbygrief/books. If you’ll click on ‘Learn more’ you’ll see additional information. Thank you, again!
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Thank you for visiting our website and reading the blog! We’re here because we want to help — so thank you for your comment. I hope you’ll keep coming back to see what’s new because we’ll be adding (and changing) the resources on the site!