We’re all familiar with the saying about two things no one can escape: death and taxes! But what about the third certainty in life? Any ideas? How about change? Can any of us escape change? I don’t think so, as much as we sometimes wish we could!
Change happens constantly for each of us, and the speed of change seems to escalate all the time. Along with every loss (whether good or bad) comes change, too. John Kennedy spoke about change in this well-known quote: “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future.”
How do you feel about change? Some folks seem to thrive on change, while others would just as soon stay as far away from it as possible. The only problem with resisting it is that you simply can’t stop it from happening. When you resist change, all you achieve is to temporarily postpone something you must eventually face. If fighting back made the ‘change issue’ go away, you’d have a logical reason to keep fighting it. But the opposite is true.
I’m not saying change is easy, or even desirable. What I am saying is that change is inescapable—and the way you approach the parts of your life that you must adapt, adjust, and/or reshape—affects your present and future in a critical way. This is especially true when the changes are connected to grief and loss. Remapping will help you understand that process.
The good news is that resilience is a quality you can nurture and grow—and resilience will help you cope with change. Research has shown that a key element in fostering resilience in your life is having loving, supportive relationships. Staying flexible, being open and optimistic, and facing life head-on will help you handle the inevitable changes that arrive.
Think about change for a minute. Do you fear change, or do you see it as an opportunity? You may need to switch your thinking.
If you’re resilient, it doesn’t mean you won’t face difficulties – but what it does mean is that you will be better able to adapt to the difficult situations you face. Read about ways to build resilience. It’s a trait that will serve you well in all parts of your life.
With the exception of facing the devastating pain that accompanies grief, perhaps the next greatest challenge is adapting to the countless changes brought about by your loss and reshaping your life accordingly. Resilience will help you deal with these painful and challenging situations in your life.
Since you can’t escape from #3 — you’ll be wise to equip yourself as best you can to deal with it!
© 2014 Judy Brizendine
Features of Resiliency
Peace Through Grief blog – ‘Change’
Choose to Make Something Good Come from Your Great Loss
10 Ways to Become More Resilient
Breakthrough to Happy blog – ‘Your “Why” Will Make You Cry’