When we think of grief, we immediately think of death. Of course, when we lose someone significant in our lives, we experience grief. But we also experience the effects of grief whenever we lose anything truly meaningful.
Even when someone we love dies, if we do not take the steps to positively grieve our losses, the effects of grief will show up in some way. Grief dies not go away simply because we avoid it or fail to recognize it.
Last night I saw a preview for a television show on hoarding. The interviewer asked the person on the show when the hoarding started. The lady responded that it started right after her two children died — nearly twenty years ago. She admitted that her situation is out of control, but I do not think she connected the dots leading back to grief.
People try to cover up the unresolved effects of grief by escaping through the use of alcohol, drugs, sex, food, shopping, and other ways of disguising or avoiding the truth. They develop symptoms and illnesses — both physical and mental. Sometimes they find it impossible to maintain relationships.
The effects of loss are far-reaching and unresolved grief can be devastating. Healing and restoration are necessary for emotional, relational, spiritual, and physical health.
“Am I grieving?” is an important question to ask yourself. I hope you will.
© 2012 Judy Brizendine