Grief and Loss Bring Choices — and You Are not Powerless!

stairs going in opposite directions_brick wall_cobblestone streetWhen circumstances and incidents take place that are outside of your control, do you sometimes feel as though you’re a pawn? Do you feel helpless? The truth is that loss is often beyond your control—and grief and loss bring choices—however, you are not powerless.

When grief entered my life, I was so naïve. I had no idea what to expect, and I surely didn’t realize I had choices (or responsibilities) for anything related to the grief that confused and overwhelmed me. However, as time went on, I came to understand that I did have choices to make—and these decisions carried the potential to drive me in completely opposite directions that would affect my future and my outlook on life.

Recognizing that you have decisions to make and a part to play will not enter into the picture immediately.  Yet, at some point in the process, you’ll realize that you can either accept what has happened—or bitterly blame someone or something else for your situation. You can hold on tight to the past, or you can begin to look toward the future and a new beginning. You can choose to grow because of the life experience you’ve been catapulted into, or you can allow yourself to drown in the loss and waste away.

Standing still is not an option. You’re either moving forward or falling back. You do have a choice about how you’ll handle your loss, and you determine how the tragedy will affect the rest of your life.

Will you choose life or despair? Strength or weakness? Action or immobility?

You always have a choice. And sometimes you have to make a hard decision in spite of your feelings—because you know that choice is the right one.

I hope you’ll choose life!

© 2012 Judy Brizendine

About Judy

“Out of your deepest pain comes your greatest gift.” Judy writes about grief and loss in a realistic, practical way – to help, inspire, encourage, and educate any who face loss in their lives. A fellow-traveler’s approach to grief …

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