Comments on: How We Coped with Grief during the Holidays — and How You Can, Too http://stunnedbygrief.com/stunned-by-grief/how-we-coped-with-grief-during-the-holidays-and-how-you-can-too/ Tue, 14 May 2013 16:07:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: admin http://stunnedbygrief.com/stunned-by-grief/how-we-coped-with-grief-during-the-holidays-and-how-you-can-too/#comment-391 admin Mon, 07 Nov 2011 18:50:09 +0000 http://stunnedbygrief.com/?p=1768#comment-391 Sandy, I know the holidays are especially difficult. They were for me, too. However, don’t readily conclude that you’re not doing well because of your response. Holidays are a tender and vulnerable time, particularly the first few, and your feelings are not unusual. You’re probably doing better than you think, so don’t get discouraged. I hope you will treat yourself gently, and not try to take on too much or be coerced into celebrating in a way that you’re just not up to. Don’t allow yourself to be alone (even if you think you would prefer to be), but decide what you would like to do and make the suggestion to someone you’d like to spend the time with. Those who love you will be apt to support you, if you explain how what you need and how they can help.

Thank you for your support for my book. I’m so glad that what I’ve written has been helpful to you in your journey, and that you believe it is valuable for others who are grieving.

Bless you,
Judy

]]> By: Sandra Keith http://stunnedbygrief.com/stunned-by-grief/how-we-coped-with-grief-during-the-holidays-and-how-you-can-too/#comment-386 Sandra Keith Sun, 06 Nov 2011 23:22:46 +0000 http://stunnedbygrief.com/?p=1768#comment-386 Judy, This will be my second holidays without Jim. I thought I was doing quite well, actually, until October came around. I began feeling down in the dumps and couldn’t figure out why. We never really celebrated Haloween, so it didn’t make sense to me that I’d be depressed. When the calendar turned to Nov, it got worse. Now I’m dreading the holidays.

I’ve read your book. I’m going back and read the holidays part again.

Sure wish I’d had your book 18 months ago. At least now I have a book I can place in the hands of anyone newly in my shoes.

Blessings,

Sandy Keith

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