I’ll Think about Grief Tomorrow

cluster of blue market umbrella canopiesA friend used to teasingly call me Scarlett (as in Scarlett O’Hara from Gone With The Wind, who was known for saying, “I’ll think about that tomorrow!”)  This attitude is okay when it involves setting something unimportant or less pressing aside temporarily to concentrate on a more urgent issue at hand.  However, people tend to avoid thinking about grief altogether, as though by not thinking about it, they can somehow escape it.

I’m surely not suggesting that you dwell on grief.  But at least know where to go and what to look for when loss touches your life, and grief arrives with it.

I had never thought about grief until I was face-to-face with it, and then I had no idea what to do.

I didn’t understand what was happening inside or around me.  And everything was more difficult because I knew nothing about grief.

When grief strikes, the last thing you’ll want to do is to try and figure it out.  It’s hard to think clearly.  And you’ll want (and need) answers, but won’t feel like searching for them.

Locate a few basic resources ahead of time.  Know where to go for help, for information, for answers.

I hope you’ll gain something positive from my experience—and take action.

© 2011 Judy Brizendine

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"Out of your deepest pain comes your greatest gift." Judy writes about grief and loss in a realistic, practical way - to help, inspire, encourage, and educate any who face loss in their lives. A fellow-traveler's approach to grief ...

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4 Responses to “I’ll Think about Grief Tomorrow”

  1. Sandra Keith says:

    I buried my parents and a child but there is nothing that compares to the grief of losing a husband of 53 years. I thought I knew about grief. How wrong I was. What I finally learned through reading many books on the subject was that I was normal when I thought I’d lost my mind. Thank you for your insight.

    • admin says:

      I could never have imagined the pain of grief I felt when I lost my husband. I didn’t even think that depth of pain was possible. I didn’t know anything about grief at the time, and until I learned about it, I thought I was going crazy, too. I wrote the books because I wanted to help others understand some of the things I had to struggle to find out. I will continue to share whatever I have learned that can help others. Having been through this experience, we can support each other in ways that others cannot, simply because of their lack of understanding. I’m so glad that you found something meaningful here.

    • Isabelle says:

      I might be beating a dead horse, but thank you for posting this!

      • admin says:

        Isabelle, I really appreciate your taking the time to visit our website, read the blog, and write a note! I’m glad the message was helpful.