We have high expectations for the holidays, and we naturally think about our loved ones more than ever. We long to be with those we love, and when that’s impossible, we’re sad. I’m no different than anyone else. The first holidays without my husband were especially tough. But I had built a foundation that held me up despite the utter sadness and pain I felt.
Soon after my husband died, I made a decision — and I remember exactly where I was standing when I made it. Making that decision was clearly important to my future and critical to my grief journey.
I decided I would not be bitter about his death. And I decided to take whatever steps were necessary to positively work through my grief, so the tragedy would not control the rest of my life.
Every time I felt sad or vulnerable, I didn’t consciously remember this decision; yet, I believe it symbolized an underlying determination to stand firm and grab onto hope and never let go! I know this choice was crucial to my healing.
So I challenge you, in spite of any wavering feelings you have right now — to stand firm when grieving, grab onto hope, and regardless of what happens — never let go! If you reach that decision, I feel sure you will make your way through grief to a full and fulfilling life again.
© 2011 Judy Brizendine