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admin — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 04:30:08 +0000

I’m so sorry that you’re hurting, Sandy. Regardless of everything you know, even as a Christian, you still miss your husband whom you loved before and still love now. That has not changed, and never will. And it doesn’t mean that you should not grieve over his death. Grieving is natural, and you’re doing just what you’re supposed to be doing. I’m sorry you’ve had to hear hurtful remarks — and yes, they do hurt! Even though people don’t mean to say the wrong things, often they do. Just know that you have every right to grieve the loss of your husband whom you dearly love. And you have the right to grieve in your own way and in your own time. There are people who support you and who care about what you’re going through, and who understand how difficult the grief process is. If possible, try to remind yourself of those things when you hear something hurtful or well-meaning, but upsetting. People just don’t always understand, especially if they haven’t been where you are now. God bless you as you continue this journey of love toward healing.

By: Sandra Keith

Sandra Keith — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 03:00:39 +0000

Last week I posted on FB how much I missed my husband and someone commented that “God’s timing is always perfect.” I wanted to write back and sear them on both sides. As a Christian, I know all of that. Does it mean I don’t miss Jim? Does it mean I shouldn’t be grieving? People say the most hurtful and stupid things and while they are well-meaning, they would be better off to say nothing. A hug or an “I’m so sorry” goes a long way. And while I’m thankful Jim is with the Lord and out of the Parkinson’s diseased body, I miss him and I think that feeling should be acknowledged as valid.

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