Comments on: What Is the Widespread Misunderstanding about Grief? http://stunnedbygrief.com/stunned-by-grief/what-is-the-widespread-misunderstanding-about-grief/ Tue, 14 May 2013 16:07:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: admin http://stunnedbygrief.com/stunned-by-grief/what-is-the-widespread-misunderstanding-about-grief/#comment-500 admin Wed, 07 Mar 2012 00:40:58 +0000 http://stunnedbygrief.com/?p=2098#comment-500 You’re so right, Harriet. People who have not been through a similar experience of grief, or a devastating grief experience of their own, have no way of understanding what is needed or how long it takes. As you said, comments from others may come from a place of caring, but there may still be a complete lack of understanding. Every situation and every person is different (just as you said) — and we owe it to ourselves to give grieving the time it takes. Grieving is the path to healing and it is a process over time. There are no shortcuts.

Thank you for reading the blog and taking the time to respond.

Bless you,
Judy

]]> By: Harriet Hodgson http://stunnedbygrief.com/stunned-by-grief/what-is-the-widespread-misunderstanding-about-grief/#comment-499 Harriet Hodgson Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:42:37 +0000 http://stunnedbygrief.com/?p=2098#comment-499 In my experience, people expect you to be “over” grief in a few weeks or months. This is completely unrealistic especially if you are grieving for multiple losses, as I was. Time is different when you’re grieving. After church one morning a friend said, “It’s been a year since your daughter died, hasn’t it?” Though her comment came from caring, I was shocked because only three months had passed since my daughter died. Though we have similar responses to grief, each of us grieves in our own time and I think we need to give ourselves this time.

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