When Grieving Stay Focused on Your Goal of Healing!

Rocky and snow-capped mountains covered with white fluffy clouds and blue skiesHave you faced obstacles — mountains to climb — in your grief journey? Sometimes we get so lost wandering around the mountains (and counting all the things we’re up against) that we forget about what lies beyond them. When grieving stay focused on your goal of healing!

Your mountains may be fears that cropped up in response to your loss. Your obstacles may be financial, or they may concern changes in your relationships with family or friends. You may be struggling spiritually or feel that you’re all alone.

You may think no one appreciates how you feel or is able to truly support you emotionally. You may not understand the way you see yourself differently now, or why your self-image has changed.

Whatever the obstacles, don’t let them become so important that they overshadow your primary goal of healing.

Make a solid commitment that you will not let your loss cause you to become bitter. And decide that you’ll do whatever it takes to positively move through grief to your ultimate goal of healing and rebuilding a fulfilling life. Firmly making this decision will definitely make a difference in your grief journey. You may stumble — but you’ll get back up and keep moving forward when you have made this choice!

© Judy Brizendine 2011

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"Out of your deepest pain comes your greatest gift." Judy writes about grief and loss in a realistic, practical way - to help, inspire, encourage, and educate any who face loss in their lives. A fellow-traveler's approach to grief ...

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4 Responses to “When Grieving Stay Focused on Your Goal of Healing!”

  1. Sandra Keith says:

    Thanks, Judy.

    This Christmas seems almost worse than my first one without Jim. I simply wasn’t prepared to be blind-sided. Consequently, I put myself back in God’s recovery hospital and am now doing nothing more than I feel like doing. I’m knitting, bought gift cards for gifts so as to take pressure off me, and ordered home made cookies from a granddaughter who is trying to earn enough money to go to Wash D.C. with her class next spring. Thanks for your encouragement. Being a widow is certainly not for sissies. The road is too difficult. If we have no strength in the beginning, we accrue it as we go. Otherwise, none of us would survive the journey.LP3V

    • admin says:

      Sandy, as far as I can tell, you’re doing everything right! I think many times we’re still in shock early on, and that’s why we’re blind-sided when we experience emotions and realities we didn’t expect — or thought we had somehow coped with more completely. I’m glad you’ve stepped back and refused to take on more than you feel you’re up to. This is the time to give yourself some breathing room and treat yourself especially kindly. You’re so right, being a widow is not for sissies. I never expected the reality I faced in my own journey. But God never gives us more than we can handle, and I’ll bet you’re discovering strength you didn’t realize you have. I sure did. We don’t really know what we’re capable of doing until we’re in a situation where we have no choice but to keep going. Fortunately, we aren’t able to see too far into the future. God knows our limits. In the few months we’ve been writing back and forth to one another, I’ve realized you’re a very strong and special woman. You’re doing well, and God will bring you through this in a positive way. You still have a purpose for being here. Bless you!

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      • admin says:

        Thank you, Jomar, for taking the time to check out our site and blog! So glad that you landed here, and I hope you’ll return from time to time to see what’s been added. If there’s a subject related to grief and loss that you’d like to read more about, please let me know. We strive to provide information that people are looking for and need. Thank you again for stopping by.
        Best,
        Judy