Laughter is a “healing” escape. Research has confirmed the powerful medicinal effects of laughter. It truly is a miracle drug! And how many ‘drugs’ today have no negative side effects? Laughter produces only positive effects—on both the mind and the body! Laughter even helps to fight disease.
Have you noticed in your own experience that positive and negative responses cannot occupy the same space? If you’re giggling, can you stay mad or upset? How many times have you been angry with someone, and they kept teasing you until you smiled or laughed? When you couldn’t keep from smiling (no matter how hard you tried) didn’t your mood change?
I understand that at times during grief, especially early on, you won’t be able to laugh. And please know that I am not disrespecting or disregarding the grieving process. It’s crucial. However, everyone needs breathing space from grief. Otherwise, it’s too overwhelming.
During grief, a natural tendency is to allow laughter to make you feel guilty or disrespectful. Please fight this urge! Laughing will raise your spirits, give you a respite from grieving, and help to keep your hope alive!
If your loss was the death of a loved one, think about what that person would want for you. I know my husband would choose laughter for me, just as I would choose the same for him! Yes, I grieved. I missed him more than I can describe, but I knew I couldn’t stay in that place. I had to keep moving toward life.
Even if laughing seems unnatural, try it. Rent a funny movie, read a humorous book, watch a TV program that makes you laugh, go out with a friend who is funny, play with your pet—whatever works for you!
Laugh on purpose, and see if your mood doesn’t lift. Hopefully, laughing will become second-nature again!
Laughter is a muscle, so exercise it…
© 2012 Judy Brizendine