Posts Tagged ‘anger’

The Devastating Reality of Sudden Death

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

single white calla lily nestled among green leavesWhen someone dies unexpectedly, the shock and pain are indescribable. Often we are paralyzed. We don’t understand, and we don’t know what to do.

Millions of people around the world are mourning the sudden death of Whitney Houston and trying to take in the reality of something they cannot believe is real. For Whitney’s family and those who love her the most, the pain is beyond comprehension. My heart breaks when I think of what her daughter Bobbi Kristina, her mother Cissy, her ex-husband Bobby, and others closest to her are going through right now, because I’ll never forget the unspeakable pain I lived through fourteen years ago when my husband John went mountain-bike riding and never came home. Tragedy strikes—and we are overwhelmed by grief.

No one is prepared for death, even if someone is sick and isn’t expected to live. And when death comes unexpectedly, we feel even more helpless and confused. Grief is not something we think about until we come face-to-face with it, and by that time, it’s too late. We’re thrust abruptly into grief, we don’t have a clue what is happening to us, how to respond, or what to do—and at some point, we’ll know we have to find a way to navigate the fear, confusion, and uncertainty of our personal grief journey.

Misunderstanding surrounds grief.

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Are You Trapped in Your Grief?

Saturday, October 1st, 2011

weathered wood fence with barbed wire in fieldIf you aren’t sure of your destination, how are you going to get there? And if you don’t know the obstacles to watch out for — and avoid — you may trip somewhere along the way. I like to call these possible bumps in the road ‘flashpoints’ because working through them is critical in your journey to healing.

Your path through grief will be smoother when you know what to expect. And when you know the possible snags, you’re less likely to get stuck on them.

Unresolved anger and guilt can be flashpoints that trap you, and as long as they control you, healing will be short-circuited.

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What Surprised You the Most about Grief?

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

Photo of isolated dockDid you ever stop to consider that something could trigger changes causing you to feel like a stranger, even to yourself? How could that happen?

Soon after my husband died, not only did I feel isolated–but I didn’t even recognize the person inside of me. I didn’t know the imposter who, at times, was angry and hostile for no logical reason. How did this intruder move in and push me aside?   Photo of two isolated people sitting on bench

Grief affects every area of our lives. No wonder its effects are noticeable and sometimes overwhelming. However, there is a path through grief–and if you want to find healing, you’ll take the steps to reach your new beginning.

Remapping is doable. There is a way through …

© 2011 Judy Brizendine