Posts Tagged ‘attitude’

Sometimes You Simply Have to Encourage Yourself During Grief

Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

Grief_Encourage Yourself_Orange sunset over oceanEveryone needs encouragement, especially when grieving. And sometimes, you simply have to encourage yourself during grief.

The longer I live, the more I understand that attitude is the single most important driving force in any of our lives. Whether the question relates to your professional life, your personal life, your relationships, your spiritual journey, or anything else you can think of—your attitude influences (and drives) your success or failure, your happiness or dissatisfaction, and the ease or struggle of your journey.

Let’s be honest. Grief is hard. It may be one of the most difficult things you’ve faced in life. And struggle can surely get you down, if you allow it.

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When Tragedy and Grief Devastate You, What Do You Do?

Monday, April 22nd, 2013

old wooden gate_brick and stucco arch_sunlight peeking thruNo one expects a tragedy.  Yet, tragedies strike, seemingly out of nowhere, and they’re devastating.

Last week brought terror and heartache to people across our country, but our collective pain and grief are only a shadow of the pain and grief felt by victims whose lives were directly touched by the tragedies in Boston, MA and West, TX.  My heart aches for each of these people and their families … for the way their lives have been forever changed and for the unbelievable pain they face over the next weeks, months, and years as they work through their grief and learn to accept (and adjust to) the changes inflicted on their lives because of their losses.  When tragedy and grief devastate you, what do you do?

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Hope, Trust, Joy and Wonder — Wisdom from Babes

Wednesday, January 2nd, 2013

Little girl offering cocker spaniel a taste of her ice cream coneAs 2012 ends and the anticipation of a new year (along with the prospect for new beginnings) arrives, I can’t help but think about life through the eyes of a little child. Children have the right idea—and we can take away valuable lessons for living by looking at life through their eyes.

I sensed life through a new lens this Christmas. As adults, I think we often tend to become jaded over the years—a bit cynical; less than enthusiastic about things that excited us before; and sometimes we end up just going through the motions of holidays, celebrations, and even our everyday lives.

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Grief Was Not What I Expected — and What a Teacher It’s Been!

Friday, June 8th, 2012

bright multicolored hot air balloon, american flag, blue sky, hopeI’m very excited to be guest blogging today for Fairhaven Memorial Park.

I hope you’ll check out the article—and share it with your friends and anyone you know who would be interested.

Just click on the link:  Fairhaven Memorial Park

 

Grief Brings Change — and You Possess a Powerful Tool!

Tuesday, May 22nd, 2012

colorful horizontal layers of sunset_peach gray green_grief_change_attitudeGrief is tied to significant loss, and grief brings change.

Whether your loss is the death of someone or the end of a relationship, loss of health or mobility, loss of your home or job, loss of your business or your assets, loss of security, or any meaningful loss, you will experience change. How you respond to the change (and this will likely be many kinds of changes)—will determine your future. How you respond sets your course in a positive or harmful way.

Attitude is one of the most powerful tools in your life, possibly the most important one. Your attitude determines how you ‘see’ what happened to you, and it will be a key element in how you respond.

Much, if not most, of what happens in your life is outside of your control. So how will you respond to the majority of events, conditions, and circumstances you face?

Think about it. Life is about learning. When we don’t get it right the first time, we usually get another chance to learn the lesson—and we keep going back to square one until we ‘get it.’

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Gratitude During Grief

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2012

orange rose nestled among varied bright yellow flowersYou may be thinking, “Gratitude during grief — are you kidding?”

A friend shared something with me that changed his life. Last year he started a gratitude journal. All year long, he’s written something in his journal each day. Even on the worst of days, he’s been able to find things to be grateful for.

Before going to sleep at night, he thinks about his day and records his gratitude in his book. Each time he writes, he starts out by saying that he’s glad to be alive! He almost died. That experience changes the way you think. Some days my friend also begins his day by writing in his gratitude journal.

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Your Attitude — Friend or Enemy During Grief?

Tuesday, November 15th, 2011

Bright blue sky with fluffy white and gray cloudsDo you have any idea how powerful your thoughts are — especially during challenging times such as grief?

It’s not unusual for people who are grieving to start feeling anxious weeks before the holidays arrive. I was just talking with someone who reinforced this idea. Her friend (who has experienced several losses recently) has already been talking about how much she dreads the holidays and knows they are going to be terrible. If she keeps on thinking, talking, and believing this way — her holiday experience will definitely be awful! However, it doesn’t have to be.

Our minds actively work to turn our thoughts into reality. You’ve probably heard of the ‘self-fulfilling’ prophecy. Our minds want us to be right, and through a complex process between our bodies and our minds, we live out our thoughts!

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