Posts Tagged ‘choosing life’

Grief Is Hope

Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

trees with brigh orange leaves against smoky sky with sun peeking throughYou may be thinking, “Grief is hope? What in the world are you talking about? I’m in the middle of grief, and it sure doesn’t feel like hope! In fact, I’m struggling to stay hopeful.”

The word I haven’t been able to get out of my mind this week is ‘hope’ because I so desperately want to express this sense of hope to you. Each of us face losses of many kinds, and they are all devastating in their own ways. Our losses cause pain — and the pain is inescapable. But here’s where the hope comes in!

Grief is the way we get from pain to a fulfilling life again. When we choose to grieve, we are choosing hope, because we’ve decided to take the necessary steps to move through the pain (over time) and start living again.

Grieving does not happen automatically.

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Will You Say ‘Yes’ to Healing from Grief?

Monday, September 19th, 2011

Red door with metal security gate in front Will you walk through the door?

Healing from grief requires a ‘yes’ from you. The door that leads to healing probably seems intimidating. It’s not warm or inviting, and you may be scared. After all, who wants to face pain?

You’re not sure what you’ll find on the other side of the door. Like this photo of a ‘double’ door, once you open the first one, you may run into others you have to walk through, too — layers of uncomfortable feelings, fears, and unexpected issues connected to your grief. But healing begins with a choice: the decision to face the pain and work through it.

When a loss first occurs, your immediate goal is survival — making it through the day, the hour, or even the minute.

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