Posts Tagged ‘decisions and choices’

Watch Out for Built-In Obstacles During Grief

Friday, September 7th, 2012

gray stone wall with trailing green vines_obstaclesI’m very honored to be guest blogging for the second time today for the Fairhaven Memorial Blog!

I hope you’ll check out the article—and share it with your friends, family, and people you know.

People everywhere are experiencing all types of loss. Everyone needs hope. And when faced with grief, we all need help.

Just click on the link to read:  Fairhaven Memorial Blog

What Is the Widespread Misunderstanding about Grief?

Thursday, February 23rd, 2012

smooth polished stone heart lying among shells on the beachMisunderstanding about grief is common. Just talk to people, if you can get them to talk about it. People generally don’t want to discuss grief until they’re faced with it in their own lives—or in the life of someone they know.

A key misconception is that grief will finally just go away on its own. This mistaken idea goes right along with the one we’ve all heard: “Time heals all wounds.” Neither is true.

All loss results in grief—but the process to reach healing is a choice each person has to make. We choose whether to face our grief or try to ignore or bury it. Every person eventually chooses whether to be a victor or a victim.

I don’t want to mislead you. At first, grief is all-consuming, and the pain is overwhelming. You’ll be in a state of shock and feel numb. Some describe this feeling as being ‘in a fog.’

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When Grieving Stay Focused on Your Goal of Healing!

Wednesday, December 14th, 2011

Rocky and snow-capped mountains covered with white fluffy clouds and blue skiesHave you faced obstacles — mountains to climb — in your grief journey? Sometimes we get so lost wandering around the mountains (and counting all the things we’re up against) that we forget about what lies beyond them. When grieving stay focused on your goal of healing!

Your mountains may be fears that cropped up in response to your loss. Your obstacles may be financial, or they may concern changes in your relationships with family or friends. You may be struggling spiritually or feel that you’re all alone.

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