Posts Tagged ‘emotions of grief’

Life and Loss — Parallel Tracks in Our Lives

Tuesday, August 14th, 2012

parallel railroad tracks representing life and lossAt any given time, loss is part of our normal, everyday experience, right along with the rest of life—including our greatest joys.  When we confront losses, especially serious ones, we often have to remind ourselves that we still have goodness in our lives, too.  We sometimes have to force ourselves to remember that the two tracks are always running alongside each other—and our lives are filled with joy and pain, good and bad, ups and downs—at the same time.  At certain times, one track carries more weight and is more visible, and during those times the pain tends to overshadow the joy.  However, even when pain is the dominant emotion we feel, that doesn’t mean  everything in our lives is bad.

I am no different from anyone else.  When one area of my life or one thing is really distressing, I’m just as liable as anyone else to let negativity creep into my thinking.  We start to question what in our lives is positive, or when we can expect something good to happen again.  This kind of thinking is a trap to avoid.  We will defeat ourselves by  thinking this way.

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