Posts Tagged ‘fear’

What Do You Say to Someone Who Is Grieving?

Friday, February 10th, 2012

heart shaped trees on grassy knoll with vineyard in foregroundYou know someone who is grieving, and you happen to see them. What do you say?

Fear about what to say to a griever is common. Most people are uncomfortable around someone who is grieving because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing. Since they have no idea what to say, often they simply choose to avoid the griever.

The most important thing anyone can do is to let the person who is grieving know that you care. Give them a hug, show them your concern for what they’re going through, and tell them you want to help (and mean it)!

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Priceless Gift from the Grief ‘Club’ – Understanding Grief

Wednesday, August 24th, 2011

Photo of Thorns and FlowersThe Grief ‘Club’ is a group you never wanted to join. But the irony of it all is that fellow members have the ability to connect with you and understand what you’re going through in ways that strangers to the club (even though they may be people closest to you) cannot.

An unspoken bond exists between people who have suffered a deep loss. They not only know about grief, they know grief—so they can relate to your feelings, fears, and questions. Fellow members have an awareness that is missing in those who do not belong to the club. Others, regardless of their desire, simply do not have the same ability to understand—because grief cannot be known any way except firsthand.

I’m still amazed (even though I know it’s true) that a perfect stranger may be able to relate to me better than someone I’ve known and loved for years.

Have you received this gift?

© 2011 Judy Brizendine