Posts Tagged ‘isolation’

Grief Under Fire: Get Past ‘Flashpoint’ Issues to Reach Healing

Monday, October 22nd, 2012

large boulders in stream_brightly colored flowers foreground_set in forest landAnything that gets in the way of healing from grief is a concern, but certain issues are especially critical, complex, explosive, or unpredictable. I describe these subjects as ‘flashpoint’ issues because they hold the power to block your path to healing, to derail your progress.

Everyone’s grief is uniquely his or her own. Each experience is different, just as each person, personality, past, circumstance, and everything about an individual is unique.

Sometimes, certain issue(s) override everything else as you face your loss—and these issues can become the rocks that block your progression toward healing. Different circumstances will force particular issues to the forefront, issues that are somehow attached to, or emerge from your loss. Some examples are isolation; fear; anger; guilt;  ‘Why?’ questions; victor/ victim; and “Do I really want to get well?”

In facing my own loss, flashpoint issues took me by surprise, either because they were so contrary to my own personality—or because I was shocked that they showed up as part of my grief.

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What Surprised You the Most about Grief?

Wednesday, July 20th, 2011

Photo of isolated dockDid you ever stop to consider that something could trigger changes causing you to feel like a stranger, even to yourself? How could that happen?

Soon after my husband died, not only did I feel isolated–but I didn’t even recognize the person inside of me. I didn’t know the imposter who, at times, was angry and hostile for no logical reason. How did this intruder move in and push me aside?   Photo of two isolated people sitting on bench

Grief affects every area of our lives. No wonder its effects are noticeable and sometimes overwhelming. However, there is a path through grief–and if you want to find healing, you’ll take the steps to reach your new beginning.

Remapping is doable. There is a way through …

© 2011 Judy Brizendine