Posts Tagged ‘misunderstanding about grief’

Quiet and Solitude—Friends or Enemies during Grief?

Thursday, April 2nd, 2015

Lonely beach_Gray Skies_Isolation_QuietBy Judy Brizendine

Are quiet and solitude friends or enemies during grief?  Sometimes we don’t recognize the things that help versus those that hurt us. And at times, things that are the most natural (and seem best) work against our healing. As in most circumstances, too much of a good thing can be bad. (more…)

What Is the Widespread Misunderstanding about Grief?

Thursday, February 23rd, 2012

smooth polished stone heart lying among shells on the beachMisunderstanding about grief is common. Just talk to people, if you can get them to talk about it. People generally don’t want to discuss grief until they’re faced with it in their own lives—or in the life of someone they know.

A key misconception is that grief will finally just go away on its own. This mistaken idea goes right along with the one we’ve all heard: “Time heals all wounds.” Neither is true.

All loss results in grief—but the process to reach healing is a choice each person has to make. We choose whether to face our grief or try to ignore or bury it. Every person eventually chooses whether to be a victor or a victim.

I don’t want to mislead you. At first, grief is all-consuming, and the pain is overwhelming. You’ll be in a state of shock and feel numb. Some describe this feeling as being ‘in a fog.’