A friend used to teasingly call me Scarlett (as in Scarlett O’Hara from Gone With The Wind, who was known for saying, “I’ll think about that tomorrow!”) This attitude is okay when it involves setting something unimportant or less pressing aside temporarily to concentrate on a more urgent issue at hand. However, people tend to avoid thinking about grief altogether, as though by not thinking about it, they can somehow escape it.
I’m surely not suggesting that you dwell on grief. But at least know where to go and what to look for when loss touches your life, and grief arrives with it.
I had never thought about grief until I was face-to-face with it, and then I had no idea what to do.