Posts Tagged ‘unresolved grief’

Are Christians Supposed to Grieve?

Wednesday, March 11th, 2015

Stone cross, weathered wood, framed by an archBy Judy Brizendine

People have asked me this question enough times that I thought it deserved some attention: “Are Christians supposed to grieve?” Confusion even leads some Christians to feel guilty when they do grieve and to question the strength of their faith.

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My Life Feels Out of Control — Is Grief a Factor?

Monday, October 8th, 2012

bridge covered with fog_grief_loss_Judy BrizendineWe automatically connect grief to certain circumstances. When someone we deeply love dies, we expect to grieve. However, we may only vaguely link certain situations and experiences to grief, if we associate the two at all. So the questions, ‘Is Grief a Factor?’ and ‘Am I Grieving?’ are important ones to consider.

I recently watched a drug intervention program on television. A young woman seriously addicted to heroin talked about two things in her life that had caused her tremendous pain: her father abandoned the family when she was very young, and her mother was not regularly present to take care of her and her sister. Later on, she also lost a relationship with the only true love of her life. Her main goal now is to escape from her ever-present pain by doing whatever she has to do to obtain the money to stay high on drugs. She said she doesn’t want to feel anything. Do you think the root of her problem could be grief that she never faced?

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Am I Grieving?

Wednesday, January 11th, 2012

empty single swing hanging from tree with sun peeking through leaves“Am I grieving?” seems like an odd question to ask, but more often than you would imagine, people do not associate grief with their situations.

When we think of grief, we immediately think of death. Of course, when we lose someone significant in our lives, we experience grief. But we also experience the effects of grief whenever we lose anything truly meaningful.

Even when someone we love dies, if we do not take the steps to positively grieve our losses, the effects of grief will show up in some way. Grief dies not go away simply because we avoid it or fail to recognize it.

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