What readers are saying:
Loved your book!
“I just finished your book. I am 28 years old and was suddenly widowed 4 months ago when I was 30 weeks pregnant with our first baby. My husband was 33 and killed in a motorcycle accident. My daughter is now 8 weeks old and while I still have bad days, the good stretches are starting to become longer. I am a trauma ICU RN so I saw daily how quickly life can change, but it was always to someone else. Now that someone else was me. It sucks. It hurts. I hate it. But … at the same time I have grown SO much from this. While I wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone, I AM excited to see where I end up after all the dust settles. It’s already been a heck of a ride!!
“Merry Christmas and God bless. So glad I found your book!!”
Wonderful guide to grief …
“Your book was a great help for me. I have been using quotes from it to help some other people I know that are going through the same thing. I have been leaning on God more and more every day of my life, but after reading your book I am now turning my whole life over to God and will see where he is going to lead me. Thank you so much for writing such a wonderful guide to grief.”
Mesmerized by your book!
“I attended Michele Hasley’s Grievers Journey from about March 2014 to June 21, 2014. In that time, probably a third or more into the sessions, Michele gave out your Stunned By Grief book. I was mesmerized immediately!
“My husband’s death was not as sudden and unexpected as yours, but I think you very truly captured the emotions and disbelief that accompanies the death of a spouse. I could not put down the book until I had read almost everything … I find your writing style to be very easily understood and believe your book is really a help to widows/widowers if they will just read it!! My journey is still in the stage between my husband’s death and where will I end up in time …
“I hope this e-mail will show you support for what you have written and what you do with your workbook and talks with groups. Until I attended Michele’s Grievers Journey and read your book, I felt there was not a lot that could be shared about the death of a spouse. You have been able to home in on the many aspects that becoming a widow entails. Thank you for sharing!”
Most amazing book on grief EVER!
“Most amazing book on grief EVER! It’s as if we’re living the same life and facing the same challenges. Since losing my husband, I meet more and more women with the same challenges and ALWAYS recommend your book!!!! Thanks for writing it!”
I just finished your book, couldn’t put it down …
“I just finished your book, couldn’t put it down. I’m 51 years old and my husband died walking … last June. His too was a sudden heart attack.
“I loved your book, what a wonderful thing to be able to help others with their grief….I wish I had more opportunities. I love your positive, God-based approach. That’s how I’ve approached it also. It is so refreshing to get a forward-moving perspective, so many books seem to commiserate with the grief instead of focusing on moving through it. As if we don’t realize we are sad, lonely, scared, shocked, etc … we do, don’t we?
“I’ve already shared your lovely book with some others and I will keep it as inspiration. If you are speaking anywhere near home, I’d love to know and perhaps get the opportunity to meet you.”
Great book!! These two books offer tremendous hope …
“I just finished reading your book this past weekend and absolutely loved it!! I have penciled, underlined, circled words, paragraphs, sentences… you did a lot of research in addition to
recalling your own personal experience… great book!!
“I am planning on holding a death café… and was planning on showcasing your book and your journal. I realize the death café is not a grief café but it is good to allow people options
and these two books offer tremendous hope to many people who are struggling… as the topics are varied in relation to our concepts of our own death, death of others… so I will be ordering
a couple more to have for display and will provide individuals with your website information.
Love your book and your inspiration …
“I love your book and your inspiration! I have been suffering with grief ever since my mother suffered a brain tumor (menigioma). The brain tumor has left her with cognitive & emotional changes. These changes have altered her personality significantly. I grieve over the ‘loss’ of who she used to be. I literally feel as though I lost my mom; leaving me with having to embrace this new person. It is so hard, the tumor was located in the frontal lobe which controls emotions, motivation, and behavior.
“I want to write a book to help those who have/are experiencing this type of loss … In some ways, it is comparable to a death in that the illness changes the person’s personality, leaving you with a completely different person. You have to accept and learn how to love this ‘new’ person who now has deficits that have drastically changed their personality.
“Thank you so much, Judy, for your inspiration. Your spirit, emphatic nature, and compassion are truly an inspiration to many. You are one of God’s angels.
You are a true gift.”
A tremendous comfort …
“Thank you for all that you do to educate and support people who are grieving. I recently ran across your book at the library and plan to purchase my own copy. It has been a tremendous comfort to me. This was my first Mother’s Day without my Mom since she passed last May 26. I spent it by going to a church that she loved and joined their choir as a singer.
“My father and brother also passed away 2 years apart on the same day, within the last several years. It truly has been a challenge to carry on. I’m still in the process of ‘remapping’ my life and will be for some time. I just wanted to say a heartfelt THANK YOU!!
“The hope in your book is just one of the many things that I love about it.”
Great tools to dealing with life-shaking changes …
“I really appreciated this book as a way to get through loss. In one year, I lost a close friend to death, and then a spouse to divorce. This book gave me some great tools to dealing with these life-shaking changes. It also shed some great light of understanding on my grief and recovery.
“Thanks so much for this book Judy Brizendine. Was a very helpful read!”
Excellent information in easy to digest format:
“Judy’s book is excellent – concise and useful information that is easy to read and understand, especially when newly bereaved. The book gives you a good idea of what to expect in the grief process as well as hope from the future. Inspirational quotes and stories are very helpful. Highly recommended!”
A must read …
“This (STUNNED by Grief) is a must read for anyone who has experienced any type of loss during one’s life …
“It is a great book!!!!! Highly recommend!”
—Colleen Marie Walsh-Weber
An easy read with lots of “real” advice and personal feeling …
“This book (STUNNED by Grief) is an easy read with lots of “real” advice and personal feeling put into it. Recommend it highly.”
Powerful and empowering …
“Give this book and its journal to those you know who are grieving! This is powerful and empowering to those who are hurting.”
Lots of helpful hints and thoughts to help a person get through the day (STUNNED by Grief Journal) …
“A wonderful way for any person in grief to write their feelings … lots of helpful hints and thoughts to help a person get through the day.”
Deep understanding of the impact and reality of grief; inspirational and empowering …
“This book (STUNNED by Grief: Remapping Your Life When Loss Changes Everything) will be one of those treasures on your bookshelf that you will share with friends, family, and even those you might not know so well.
“Judy Brizendine’s book is the perfect mix of personal story and practical advice. Her words are honest, direct, and loving. The sudden and tragic death of her beloved husband threw her life into an emotional tailspin. She describes with vivid detail her journey to reclaim her life. She writes so beautifully that you feel like you are there with her.
“The book offers hope and direction for those who are grieving any loss. The book’s format makes it an easy read and easy to reference. Judy offers such clarity to the grieving process that you finish the book with a deep understanding of the impact and reality of grief. Her message is inspirational and empowering. I highly recommend it for everyone!”
A personal journey, a sharing, a virtual hug, and a shoulder to lean on …
“Judy Brizendine’s book, Stunned by Grief, is a personal journey, a sharing, a virtual hug, and a shoulder to lean on from someone who has experienced the pain of sudden loss and devastation firsthand–the death of a loved one.
“The author of Stunned By Grief is a survivor, a woman of action who shares her own journey and has a passion to help others who are grieving. She understands the overwhelming sense of isolation, depression, chaos (and sometimes guilt), that come from the loss of a loved one. Brizendine’s book explains the importance of allowing yourself to grieve–and not trying to suppress this natural healing process. ‘You are not alone’ is more than an expression because this book truly makes you feel you are not alone. To have someone who understands the burden, pain, and struggles connected to loss is a great relief. I very highly recommend this book.”
After reading your book, it has given me new courage to go on …
“First I want to thank you for your book. It has helped me so much. At first, I didn’t even want to read it because of my avoiding the subject. I didn’t want to face the fact that maybe my husband would go home to be with the Lord before I do. My fear was not that he wouldn’t go to heaven, but that I could not manage the financial responsibilities he had left for me.
“After reading your book, it has given me new courage to go on. The Lord has shown me that His plans are not always mine, so I want to thank you again, Judy, for your book — and encourage others to read it, too.”
Highly recommend to any griever and even told my therapist about it …
“Still in process of reading, but this book is outstanding! Highly recommend to any griever and even told my therapist about it.”
I have already given away six of your books; our pastor is ordering more …
“I have read your book (STUNNED by Grief) and you did a fantastic job. I’ve told several people about it, and I am waiting to get a chance to talk to our pastor because I know it will be something he can use in counseling in the days ahead. Your pain and struggle came through so clearly, and I know so many have faced that or will face that, and the book will be such help.”
Six weeks later:
“Judy, I want to tell you I have already given away six of your books. Our pastor is ordering more. He has been getting wonderful feedback from those he has given them to. So many people struggling. One lady told him she read a while and cried a while. She thought the book was wonderful.”
Have read many books about grief and loss and consider STUNNED by Grief to be the best …
“I have read many books about grief and loss over the last 5 years and consider STUNNED by Grief to be the best.
I have recommended STUNNED by Grief to others who are grieving.”
I’ve only read about 50 pages on my first day of receiving your book, and your 50 pages have spoken to me more than anyone or anything that I’ve experienced …
“Someone recommended your book to me and I am so glad they did. I’ve only read about 50 pages on my first day of receiving your book, and your 50 pages have spoken to me more than anyone or anything that I’ve experienced these past 10 weeks. Just like you, I had no time to prepare—my whole future was gone in a matter of a few hours after leaving for work.
“Thank you for sharing your experience! I look forward to learning even more from you as I continue to read your book over the next week. Please keep me in your prayers, I need all the prayers I can Get!!!!”
Several weeks later:
“I finished your book a few weeks ago and it was a tremendous help to me. My mom is now reading it as well. I will encourage others who are dealing with grief to read your book because it was a great help to me when I needed help the most!”
I found your book an almost mirror image of my last 5 years; thank you for sharing your faith, feelings, and insights …
“I found your book an almost mirror image of my last 5 years. After over a half century of living together (54 years), it was very hard to let my husband go but he had had cancer for five years. My Christian faith was my foundation and without it I could not have survived.
“I picked up your book at the local library but will be buying a copy for our church library, as I believe it has so much wisdom in it.
Thank you for sharing your faith, feelings and insights with me.”
Where can I buy your book and journal? I have a client who needs them, but I don’t want to give away my copies …
“Hi Judy! Where can I buy a copy of your book and journal? I have a client who needs them, but I don’t want to give away my copies.”
I checked my library’s catalog under the subject ‘grief’ and your title really hit me, because I am stunned …
“I checked my library’s catalog online and looked under the subject ‘grief’ and saw your title. The title really hit me, because I am stunned. My mother was 82 and had heart trouble, but died suddenly. I found her two weeks ago on Friday morning after I called her house to wake her up and there was no answer. I have another friends who is grieving her father and I’ve told her about the book, too. I might buy a copy, so I’ll have it to refer to.
“I’m halfway through your book and I’m finding it very helpful. Thank you for writing the book.
“The second part of the title ‘remapping’ is also very relevant to me. I’ve been a caretaker for many years to both my parents, who have had many serious medical issues starting 17 years ago. My dad died almost 3 years ago and my mother had her second open heart surgery last year. I worked very hard to keep her in their house of 53 years (my childhood home). I’m an only child and have always dreaded having to empty the house and sell it. Once the house is sold, I’ll have to ‘reinvent myself.’
“Your STUNNED by Grief Journal has helped me to start writing. Thank you!”
Your book was God-sent …
“Your book was God-sent! I took the kids to visit my sister-in-law, we were spending time in the library, and I found your book there!
Thank you for being obedient to the Lord by opening up your life and writing the book.”
This book should be required reading for anyone who has suffered a loss …
“This book should be required reading for anyone who has suffered a loss, and their friends wondering how they can ‘be there’ for them. Wonderfully written Judy, thank you!
“I appreciate your being able and willing to share your story.”
I enjoyed the book and it has given me a lot to think about …
“Thank you for writing STUNNED by Grief. My parents both died when I was in my twenties, just getting out of college and starting my life.
Now I am thirty, and finally trying to work through my grief in a healthy way. Your book helped.
“I wanted to let you know that I enjoyed the book and it has given me a lot to think about.”
STUNNED by Grief helped me SOOO much. I wish I’d known about it right after Jim died. It would have saved me so much mental anguish …
“Of the more than 2 dozen or so books I bought in the year following Jim’s (my husband’s) death, only two were helpful. Yours was one of them.
“There are so MANY books out there on grief, but from a Christian standpoint, they are rubbish compared to your book. Good solid answers are what I was looking for. Your book gave me those. I will always love you for the help you unknowingly gave me at a time when I felt like I would die of grief.
“That book (STUNNED by Grief) helped me SOOOO much. I wish I’d known about it right after Jim died. It would have saved me so much mental anguish.”
I am a bereavement counselor and I have gotten SO much out of your book; I wish I could afford to gift each of my clients with a copy …
“I love to read, and just perchance saw this book at our local library, so I checked it out. I am a bereavement counselor for a local hospice organization. I have gotten SO much out of your book, and I wish I could afford to gift each of my clients with a copy. I did read the section aloud on ‘remapping’ at my last support group meeting…
“I am going to start by ordering one for myself, and one for someone who just lost her husband a month ago at church. My continual prayer is that God can use me through my position to lead others to Him!!! I love what I do, and know that God has placed me in this position for a reason.
“Thank you again for this book!”
Amazing book. Anyone who has ever been ‘stunned by grief’ will be astonished at how they’ll identify with the author’s experience; so personal …
“Amazing book. Anyone who has ever been ‘stunned by grief’ will be astonished at how they’ll identify with the author’s experience. There are parts of the book they will feel they had written themselves – it will be so personal.
“Grief is misunderstood by most people – especially by those standing on the sidelines observing someone going through the process. There is no ‘just get on with it’ when it comes to grief. It’s hard work.
“After the delivery of our first child – my doctor told me, ‘That is the hardest work you will ever do.’ He was wrong – grieving is the hardest work you will ever do.”
Your book is the first one to truly touch the reality of my feelings …
“I found your book in the library and am swimming in gratitude for your wisdom.
“My son was murdered almost 2 years ago and the grief, anger, horror, and shattering of trust that I have experienced is beyond words.
“Your book is the first one to truly touch the reality of my feelings. I am trying to read it slowly (ordered my own copy) so that I can fully absorb as I take this journey slowly.
“My art, my family, my friends and time are helping me heal…but your ability to put into words exactly what I am going through is wonderful. (Murder is another whole layer, of course.) Thank you!”
I just finished STUNNED by Grief and it was a life-changing experience. It was the first time that I felt someone ‘got it…’
“I just finished your book STUNNED by Grief and it was a life-changing experience. I have never received validation like I did in the words you wrote. It was the first time that I felt someone ‘got it.’
“Thank you for this book … I have recommended it to several people (including my therapist) already.”